I have known many people who have stayed in unhappy marriages because they think it is better for the kids. I understand completely. People are worried that if they get a divorce, it will ruin their kids’ lives. However, just suffering through an unhealthy marriage for the kids’ sake, often does more harm than good, for them in the future. Kids are a lot smarter than many of us give them credit for and can sense when their parents are unhappy, which causes unneeded stress and further fracturing of the home. If we really want our kids to be happy and setup for a successful future is starts with being honest with them and with ourselves about what is best for everyone, even if that answer is divorce.
Kids learn a lot from watching their parents interact with one another. They tend to take what they learn and apply it to future relationships. If a child sees their parents constantly fighting, they can think this is normal and what a marriage is supposed to be like.
I believe it is better for parents to do whatever is needed to end unhealthy parts of their marriage, instead of just waiting it out till the kids are older. Watching your parents be in conflict and unhappy with each other has an impact on kids of all ages.
I can help guide you in making the best decision for your family.
I can help you answer the question “is it better to stay married since we have children or get divorced?” I will be able to help you think clearly and make the best choice for you and your family. No decision has to be made right away, but sometimes talking to someone outside of your friends and family helps bring clarity to the situation.