Do you feel they are not "hearing" you? Are you tired of repeating yourself? So many arguments start because of miscommunication between partners. Many couples get "stuck" in destructive communication patterns and are at a loss on how to get out of them. As a communication coach, I work with couples/families to identify and shift those patterns, establishing a foundation for healthier communication going forward.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines communication as a process by which information is exchanged between individuals. It seems so simple; however, it is one of the toughest parts of any relationship. Most people learn how to communicate from their family. We grow up watching how others around us connect, good or bad. We can pick up habits that are helpful and harmful. Then we get into relationships and sometimes the communication styles of our partner differ from our own, potentially leading to miscommunication and arguments.
One of the key factors in poor communication, between couples, are internal and external crises (illness, death, job loss, divorce, childhood trauma etc.). These things need to be addressed before healthy communication can be achieved. Many people’s past can influence how they show up today. When these issues are not dealt with, they can become a stumbling block for a healthy relationship. By identifying these “triggers” we can explore how they are impacting your current communication patterns. I will give you and your partner compassionate, thoughtful, and practical support. Everyone in a relationship wants to be heard and understood. I will guide you in coming up with specific strategies to foster the best communication practices for you both. As you know, every relationship is unique, and I want to make sure I meet the needs of YOUR relationship.
Please reach out to me, I’d love to help! Whether you have been together for 60 years or 3 months, I can help you truly hear each other and break those destructive patterns!